Yes, I tell people to enjoy their single years, to enjoy friendships with guys, and besides, that we don't need men to be happy.
But sometimes it's not the fact that I don't have a boyfriend. It's more the concept that I can't just choose one. And then I start comparing myself to other girls. You know, the girls that go from relationship to relationship without blinking. Or the ones that have had the same boyfriend for the past 3 years. Or even the girls who have had what I call "1 yr +" boyfriends, whether they're still together or not. At least they've proved to themselves that they're capable of relationships.
I've come to believe I'm not cut out to even be in a relationship. Yes, I can get one night stands, but those get old after a while. When people tell me "but you could have any guy you want" they never realize they actually mean one night stands. Anyone can make a one night stand happen as long as you have relatively okay looks and alcohol. One night stands aren't what girls sit around aching for with their emotions.
Girls do, however, sit around wishing they had boyfriends. And to me it seems like there are way more girls that do this than guys. The million dollar question is WHY? Why do a larger percent of girls waste happiness wishing for a relationship compared to guys? Don't ask me. But let me know if you find out.
I'm happy being single.. for the most part. It's in my weak moments when I want someone to cuddle with or give physical affection that I get frustrated and ask "What's wrong with me, that I'm still single?" And I have yet to find the answer to that question.