What I've learned.. when it comes to break ups

1. Realize that saying "i'll never get over him" is short-sighted.

2. Don't waste time over someone who doesn't feel the same way about you

3. Stop telling them how you feel -THEY DON'T WANT TO KNOW (or, at least, their decision will not be swayed by this).

4. DON'T run back

5. FOCUS ON WHY IT ENDED! Remind yourself how the relationship used to hurt you.

6. Move on:

-be the person you want to be, don't let anything stop you. Being single is the very best place to work on self improvement or anything you always wanted to do..

-get involved with people/events (make your world bigger, and they will become a smaller part of your life)

-do something you're good at & love doing every day (builds your confidence)

-manage your time/balance work & play so that you won't get stressed to the point where you "need" him

-Improve yourself mentally, physically, and spiritually (to realize you can be better off without him, plus this helps you feel good about yourself independently of him)

7. Realize that going cold turkey may not work. You may run into him alot if he lives nearby, or you may have mutual friends. If you must deal with him, remind yourself to be polite but only act as a friend would. Avoid backsliding as much as it is possible. Every time you want him back, refer to #5.

8. When memories come into your head, filter them. When a memory that causes undesirable emotions comes along, bounce from it to something else by not allowing your mind to dwell on it. Don't dwell on memories that make you euphoric to the point that you want him back. You're lying to yourself by selectively remembering just the good in the relationship.

9. As it gets easier, allow yourself to deal with the memories more effectively- do NOT block all the memories that upset you. Once you are far enough removed from the situation you will see it more clearly for what it is. Then you will be able to make wiser decisions on how to move on mentally.